The Three C's of Confidence

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Welcome back to another episode of cashing out of your host Billy el valor mykos cousin and partner Wayne hearts are we are easy sell property solutions you can find us online at easy sell for long 1.com by phone six three one four did easy cuz how we doing in them phenomenal cuz how do you do glow over there yellow can do they can bake waiver a little bit actually got my mind is calm it's the first time i went away in a while where i didn't work I didn't read I didn't communicate I didn't connect I didn't do anything except just lay down vegetate get my head straight and it was a good needed a couple of days sometimes need a little or no you go yeah that's the brain you got it exactly been going through a little bit of batteries health things you and I've been speaking about a little liver issue or a kidney issue rather and it's been it's been trying for the last seven months and so you know the health is the most important thing so I'm really trying to get my body back in order and you know body mind and soul brother you got to have all three connected in order to move forward and so that that leads me actually to let's go in before we get in today's topic yeah what we are so you know easy sell property solutions we've been on the air now for about two years you're like you're gonna have to here it's right at least to us we buy properties all day every day for cash we have a really unique system called the easy way out and when I tell you it literally is the fastest easiest most hassle-free way to say house I'm not kidding we have hundreds of satisfied clients harness the testimonials we have people that we've been helping day in and day out specifically in the long island five boroughs area but we've been expanding out last two three weeks we had a couple of properties that came in from New Jersey Connecticut and so we're blessed because we get the opportunity to to help people and sometimes not all the time but sometimes the people that were helping they go through some challenging times they going through some really tough things foreclosure they might have lost their their their job and they're really facing struggling financial times and so today what I want to talk about in you know it comes down that you and I both experienced failure miserably you know we both experienced foreclosure and so one of the things that that pops into my head when it comes down to why are people successful I read this in a book a couple of weeks ago multi-millionaire success habits by Dean Graziano and in there he speaks about the one thing there was a study from some some guy who did a study and he said that the one thing he can tell if people who are gonna be successful in life it comes down to the confidence that they have and he did this with high school students he said it's not the smartest people who become successful it's those with the most confidence and then he went through and he started showing like how do you build your confidence muscle cuz confidence is a muscle and I can tell you when I when I lost my business back in 2006 2007 I was at the height of my career like things were rocking and rolling I had the most confidence you could possibly think of hit the fan and when hit the fan guess what happened when I lost everything I lost not only all my all my income and the business and the house and the cars but I also frickin lost my

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Confidence and when you lose your confidence when you lose your confidence like that you lose at least for myself I lost my ability to make decisions to act quickly to actually get myself out of the rut and make things happen and it I went through this process not realizing when I read it and after I read it I realized holy I actually went through these three processes these three C's that connect to to confidence in order to build your confidence muscle and so what I want to do today is just talk about those three C's and if there's people out there who are going through a hardship who are facing foreclosure who are going through a divorce who might have lost the loved one if somebody's really sick you know they go through a hard time not being able to pay their taxes whatever situation they're facing I can tell you that if they're not making a decision to go forward it's because they don't have the confidence in their ability to make a good decision or a decision that they think is going to be good so what do they do they actually act like a deer in the headlights they make no move at all that kind of frozen right I mean you've been there and we've open it you almost lose you said thank you later you lost yourself you lose your identity you lose who you are right you lost every every piece of you interviews a Billy River piece of where we're out there's listening you lose a piece of yourself and you're stuck it like you said it's a theory unless you know they take the toy so you know differentiate that thought I just want to say it's you you think you lose a piece of yourself but all you're really lost was your monetary crap you still have the ability Oh inside here they can't take your mind they can't take your heart and so that's the one thing I just wanted it you know that to point out that but yeah keep going with that yeah of course you didn't take that you still haven't strive to get back that but you lost yourself at that point and now you have to build it back in like you just concepts we're so you flex before you like muscle yeah right you have to build that back and how you do that you don't sure and you get back to the beginning and you start building up your confidence again you know there's a process how does it work like this will go through and you know this if you really think about why you don't make a decision why you don't get to that next step why you don't take action whatever the situation may be it could be starting a new business it could be quitting your job and starting a new job it could be asking that girl that guy out it could be anything that you want to do in life if you think about it the reason you're not taking actions because you don't have the confidence level if could you ever figure if your family the fear here because you just got everything you just lost it all think about but think about not maybe not even losing everything maybe just your in life you can ever direction exactly if you don't have the confidence to actually go forward and if you think about the confidence level what you need to do if you have you ever thought about a time in life where you did something successfully where you were not confident no you can't think of that you know when you're successful when you take action when you do something whether you fail forward you screw up you know you feel for when you move forward or you're actually you hit it on the head you make things happen quickly you have the confidence to do so you've had the confidence at that time you didn't do it with a fear-based mind you didn't do it where you coming from a place of like you know craziness you did

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It where you were confident you move forward and so one of the things that wanting to take action and then move forward the first C is courage you need to build up your courage you need to have the courage to take that first step you need to have the courage of that to that girl in a guy out you need to have courage to make that first step and actually open up that business and get started on your own you need to have the courage to go out and you know apply for that job or you need to have courage to do anything the courage to take action yeah and you'd find screwed on straight you always say what the mind believes it can conceive you can have to get out there you have to you the mind but the mind believes and it connects yeah half you have to get this money this mind is set straight say I'm going to take action I'm going to have the courage I'm going after this nature 100 recession and so you know you mentioned before fear if you think about fear and you think about courage and you think about confidence and moving forward fear really is a brake to momentum if you are trying to move forward and you have fear you can't mmm it actually puts the brake on and stops you dead in your tracks and so I don't know if you're if you're out there and you're facing a situation and you're behind on your mortgage payments you can't make your boys payments now because husband and wife got divorced you lost a loved one you have a child that's sick you know you're going through a tough challenging situation at that moment your confidence level drops probably to an all-time low you need to muster up the courage inside to take action you might not know exactly what to do you actually might not know what to do at all but if you do nothing you're gonna get no results yeah you know it's key you you have to take action and imperfect action taking and moving and going forward is the key and just realize that you might not have you you're not might you're not gonna have all the answers you're gonna make bad decisions you're gonna make incorrect decisions you're gonna screw up you're gonna fail but if you're taking action you're learning as you're going and eventually you're going to be able to get the momentum going that fear is gonna go by the wayside and you're actually gonna make things happen yeah you know folks how many times we've talked about no decision as worst wrong decision sitting back and doing nothing could be much more horrible yeah can hurt you much more so get out there make a decision and move forward you said Phil forward if you fail keep waiting yeah yeah we all fail forward nobody got to where we were today probably it wasn't this wasn't easy we all learned on the way dude no I had a asses handed to us we all lost billions not millions of dollars what'd you learn from it and you can't keep up you can't leave a good person down this why I said this roommate forget about it you will get right back to where you were folks yeah everyone could get back there I remember back you know 607 when I lost everything and I completely alone with my confidence I lost everything and it took me it wasn't immediate it took me three long freaking years new years to action three years dude like

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That's a long freaking time because I was dealing with the aftermath which took total of six years to get out of it but during those three years my confidence was low and I just didn't have that that self-esteem what did I do I did nothing I made no decisions I basically floundered around I've made every excuse of the book I was living it from a fear base instead of from a success base and it just it limited me to what I was able to do once it was July 4 2009 Independence Day once I got the courage to step the eff up and realize that I could change anything that happened it's the past I can change mine out and when I decided that and I made that commitment and that's what gonna talk about next to the next segment commitment when I had that courage come in and I had the courage to step up and start taking action and making moves and get into this business when I was 14 million dollars in debt when I was bankrupt when I had nothing going on nobody comes no credit no nothing I had the courage to step the frig up and say you know what I'm gonna get into this business regardless of what's going on and when I did that I made a 100% commitment which we're gonna talk about next if you find yourself in a situation where you behind any mortgage you getting divorced you are behind your property taxes you have a house that's just in disarray whatever the situation is wherever your house is call us give us 15 minutes over the phone six everyone Ford it easy or what's the website win easy sell one calm folks that's easy sell for 11.9 any property any situation anywhere New York New Jersey Connecticut call us 631 Ford it easy let us show you how the easy way out it's literally the fastest easiest most hassle-free way to sell your home guaranteed Bar None I put my name on it call us six three one forty days he would right back right after these messages what's going on Billy Alvaro Wayne Hart so we are easy sell property solutions thanks so much for coming back for the second segment if you have a property looking to sell few just curious about what you can get for the property give us a call 6 3 1 for it easy or online easy sell formal 1 calm we're talking today about how to build up your confidence if you've gone through a really shitty situation if you've experienced something it really knocks you off your feet onto your ass how do you get yourself back up and get yourself back in the horse and start riding forward in that sunset and this is a formula this is a success formula and it's it's really not that complicated it's pretty basic but you have to apply it right so we've all been maybe you haven't but myself and my cousin have been down the road of getting the kicked out of us to a point where we've completely lost our confidence sometimes it's just for a a small period of time for me it was a longer period of time when I got my ass handed to me and I lost everything back in over 607 and it took me a long time to get myself back to that next level and we talked about you know you first need to get the courage to take that

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Step forward not knowing what the outcome may be but you really need to take that step forward step up make that that's that take that step get that courage and move forward and with that you need to be you can't do it half-assed you can't kind of dip your toe in the water you need to go 100% all-in that means you need to be in the second scene this is committed you have to have 100% commitment to what you're doing full fledge you have to have your mind body and soul in alignment going forward and you have to be committed to going forward and making the necessary changes in your life whatever those changes may be let's just say you're facing foreclosure right now right you're in a situation where you're behind on your mortgage well I can tell you with 100% certainty that the psychology the cycle that you're going to be going through in the beginning when you're first behind a little bit you might get a little I can't handle it then you just you might bury your head in the sand most people do you're gonna bury a head the same you're gonna try to put it to the side you should kind of kind of forget about it you know they just doesn't just push it aside doesn't exist they don't have the courage to face what's going on so we're not having to courage they think if they push it to the side bury the head in the sand it's gonna go away and tell you it's not going to go away never go all you're doing like the government does every freakin days they're kicking the can down the road with everything you're basically kicking the can down the road and eventually you're gonna have to deal with it and so what happens with this process you go through the process of you know it's not really that big of a deal to you kind of less like bury your head in the sand and so all of a sudden you start to get a little panicked driven and you still though if you don't have the courage to make a move to make a decision eventually you're gonna end up losing that property or foreclosure and guess what you don't have to if you have the courage and you make a commitment to to making something happen that something can be either selling the home saving the home doing a modification doing a forbearance whatever it is that you want your outcome to be you need to have the courage to step up and you need to make a commitment to make things happen what do you say when folks you got it you got to make a commitment to do something about it burying your head in the sand nothing happens and I'll tell you what another thing they do is it's not only do they bury that in the sand sometimes they just try to disappear they'll try to move they'll try to get out of there in realm I mean if you can do that they'll move across the kind of folks the problems will still follow you that's more closure whatever it may have been it's still going to follow you it's still there you got to address it identify address to resolve the damn issue they get it a plate have a clean slate as I can guarantee you move across the country a lot of people tell me I thought if I move across the country it was gonna be a problem anymore no no it's funny you say that because this goes just the problems in general your people have a tendency to run run and guess what guys you're you're you're taking you with you mmm so you and all your freakin problems are coming along with you they're not going away no look in the mirrors they'll gonna this no going to be this yeah I want from yourself exactly you can't run for yourself like that so have to have the courage like bilious thing to get committed get your mind committed to say I'm going

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To take action I'm going to do whatever necessary to get rid of that problem if we're talking about the foreclosure listen go in trip you know go in go in try to short sell the property you can do that go and try to do the modification do something or something otherwise what you just gonna look you're gonna get foreclosed now you have it's the sense that do something folks get it off wipe the slate clean get rid of that probably so you can just literally one thing on your shoulders it's not there anymore then work on the next commit to working on the next problem another that maybe yeah and if you slice through all these problems your life is going to just literally change like that yeah your other percent correct and you know is you realize this confidence muscle that you're trying to build up when you gain the courage when you start to step up and you have that mindset you make that commitment what you're slowly doing is you're building yourself confidence because you're making moves even if you screw up and you fail and you get sideways and you fall again you're making you have momentum you have momentum when you have momentum and you have this unstoppable momentum going forward you're literally become unstoppable and but you have to remember now we said this before fear fear is the break to momentum so as soon as you allow fear to enter your head and you allow it to take you over your self-confidence drops and what happens you stop then you tracks you stop that forward momentum so it's important to get yourself in under control it's important to get your head under control it's important to realize that whatever situation you're going through there is an outcome that's positive if you make if you have the courage you make the commitment absolutely go forward with this right third thing third thing is equally as important now this is important because you need to get the capabilities which means you need to start learning you need to start researching you need to start speaking with experts that can assist you in going forward you have to have the commitment and you have to have the capability so if you're in foreclosure or if you've just lost a loved one and you have an estate that you have to take care of and you're burying your head in the sand you have to realize you need to start finding out what this steps are your capabilities you need to start learning you don't need to become the absolute expert in this you can tap into the experts that's actually a capability tap into the extras so for us for instance are in foreclosure you have a house that's upside down you have a house that you just inherited and you have not been dealing with it well the first thing you need to do is step up have the courage to say you know what I'm gonna make this happen I don't know what the exact outcome is gonna be 100% even though I know what this is what I want I'm gonna take the necessary steps that make something happen I'm committed to go into the next step I'm committed to making that phone call I'm committed to contacting that attorney whatever that commitment may be and the third piece is I am gonna I'm gonna make sure that I learn whatever I'm gonna get the right resources to make the right moves so and as you're doing this realize as you're going through these three C's every little step that you're taking going faux with this faux wood momentum we keep speaking about you're building your confidence muscle and eventually it's gonna get to a point where you like you have so much so much momentum that you literally become an unstoppable force you just keep on rolling forward and when you look back you're gonna realize all this

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You were worried about all the crap that you were that you had fear about years back months back tweets back weeks back you're gonna realize that it meant nothing it was your own self-limiting belief inside your freakin head that was holding you back from realizing whatever the hell it is you want to realize whether it's getting yourself out a full closure whether it's dealing with in the state that you didn't want to deal with whether it's dealing with an issue with it with the divorce that you're going through whatever it may be realize this that once you get that phone momentum once you get that confidence up once you start going forward you're gonna look back and say holy what the hell was I really even worried about because are you thinking about it cause everything in life you can deal with there's nothing you can't deal with 100% everything and anything that's out there if you step back it's gonna be hard there might be challenges might not be an easy path but everything is easy is is you're able to deal with you know you just brought up a point self limiting beliefs I mean folks if we could put that Lily in that house right now self limiting beliefs is wouldn't honestly with destroys a lot of people so you couldn't decide my styrofoam at me you know because get the courage have the courage get determined pick up the phone call 631 400 easy and then know what that third part will be saying you're gonna leverage us learn we're gonna explain the process to you we handle tax liens foreclosures probates we have ways to you might call us and say listen you know my family's been fighting for the last 10 15 years we have a way to help you out with when we have some of those family members that are not cooperating folks all of your problems are an area of opportunity for us and we're here to solve them so when you do get committed you pick up the phone you call 61 400 easy us one of us are gonna be on the phone when our sales guys gonna phone they're gonna educate the process I hope you guys see the value in that because we're always out here on the radio educating for fellow Highlanders you're going to see that same thing when you speak with reps inside the office they love to get you on the same page make you understand the process we're not there just to say listen come over here we want to buy your house and sign it I want it don't you understand the process I want you to understand your options and see what the best fitness for you and you know what we might not be the best fit and you said it before when it comes down really all we're here to do is to educate the people that are out there so you can make an informed decision whether we're the right fit or not we're gonna lead you down the path so you can make the decision that's good for you and your family correct whether it's keeping your house save your house selling the US selling it to somebody else as long as you were on with the right information you have the courage you have the commitment you have the capabilities you have the confidence then the make a decision moving forward whether that be with easy sell property solutions or another alternative you come up with you're gonna have the confidence and the ability to make that decision and act on it and that's really what this whole thing is about that is if we can't help you folks what we always say we've hardest friends and will lead us in the right direction and we hope you're in a better place than you were before you called us well that's that's the value that we're heading and that's what we'd love to do and we'd love to give back to this community and this was today it was good what why don't you why don't you take us out we got about 45 50 seconds left fifty seconds folks if you have a house you're looking to sell please pick up the phone 631 400 easy at 631 400 easy

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